An ongoing friendship between the two of you might be impossible. Unfortunately, like many victims of unwanted sexual contact, you seem to be blaming yourself and wondering what you can do to repair the relationship with the aggressor.īut he is the one who has disrespected and violated you. I don’t want to lose my friendship with him, but how do I get the point across to him that I’m not interested in him sexually? What can I do about this problem? - Sad Dudeĭear Sad: Crawling into bed and coming on sexually to a sleeping person is assault. I really do care for him like he’s my own brother. I don’t want to be in the same room alone with him right now, and I’m not sure what to do. I have been avoiding him and have not been talking to him. He crawled into bed with me and tried to be sexual with me. Things went back to normal, but a couple of weeks ago he came home drunk. I told him I loved him as a brother only and did not share any sexual feelings toward him.Īfter that night I thought everything was OK between us.
During that time my best friend told me he needed to tell me a secret - that he had sexual feelings toward me and wanted to know if I felt the same way.
We respect each other’s boundaries and I support him being gay.Ī couple of months ago my girlfriend of four years ended our relationship and I was crushed. I care about him as a brother (I’m an only child). My best friend from childhood and I rent an apartment together. Dear Amy: I’m a 28-year-old straight male.